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Wednesday October 26, 2005

“Cheat” days… thbbbt!

That was my best Bill The Cat impersonation. (For those of you unfamiliar with the sheer greatness that was Bill, Google him. He should be president. Really.) Also, I really love Wikipedia’s definition of Bill: An attempt to create a character so repulsive that it would have absolutely no merchandising potential. Berk Breathed, the creator of Bloom County, obviously misunderstood the marketing potential of a cat two whiskers this side of roadkill.

I miss Bill…but I digress, again.

Let’s talk about “cheat” days, since “MasterMeals” is going to wait a day or two…I have my reasons. Heh.

Almost every ‘diet’ book has something to say about going ‘off’ the diet. Now, let’s think about this, shall we? If we’re not on a diet, how can we go ‘off’ of it? We can’t. There’s no reason to say “cheesecake” or whatever is not a normal part of your healthy nutrition plan.

You think I’ve lost it, right? Read on.

Oscar Wilde, that pithy Brit, once said:

Moderation is a fatal thing. Nothing exceeds like excess.

Then again, Wilde never saw his toes.

There is a point here…and I’ll find it if I keep rambling. Oh yeah…moderation. It’s like the country dog versus the city dog. One is kept locked up, and once taken into the open country, shoots off never to be seen again. The country dog already ‘has’ endless open spaces, and is content to lay around on the patio all day.

Same principle, except without the dogs. Or the fence.

Once you allow your mind to accept the fact that yes, you can have any food you want within reason, half the temptation to overindulge in it seems to vanish, at least for most people. Take the MSG and chemical junk out of your diet, and that will quadruple in effect.

Case-in-point: today’s eating plan.

Got some cardio in last night, which was great. No dizziness, so I’m feeling good about my first weighted workout in months tomorrow. I woke up hungry, so I dove into the stand-by meals, which I really enjoy. (Key!!) I knew I’d be having dinner out with a friend tonight, and there was a birthday party after, so I purposely left room. I didn’t eat nearly as much as normal during the day, and I applied my strategy of eating “half” of the meal out at the restaurant and taking the other half home. I also didn’t go hog-wild, because I just didn’t care to. No urge.

However, the meal was hardly a MasterMeal, as you’ll soon see. It was very enjoyable, but no more so than my regular meals, just enjoyable in a different way. If asked if I’d like to eat that way all the time, the answer would be hell no! First, you’d feel like crap (I feel great right now…in fact, hungry), and you’d look like it, too. Eating that way once a week or once every 10 days is just fine, but let’s call a spade a spade, shall we?

This is not a ‘cheat’ meal, because there’s nothing to ‘cheat on’.

In fact, using that type of lingo is really damaging to the mind. Seriously. Think about it: if you’re ‘cheating’ by eating something that’s not on your standard daily plan, what are you doing the rest of the time? “Not” cheating? What the heck does that mean? I don’t know about you, but I’m just eating!. Just take it in moderation, eat the foods you know will discard the fat, and take an “alternative meal”, not a “cheat meal”, whenever you feel it’s appropriate. If you feel it’s appropriate every other day, perhaps you just need to rethink your goal to shed a pound of fat per week. Ain’t gonna happen, and you’ll feel like poo.

Do it right, and you’ll feel like a million, and your metabolism will benefit from the caloric shock.

Oh, at that birthday party, my best friend said, “I have some of your favorite cake on the table man!” while on the phone en route to the restaurant. I had three bites, and that was plenty. Man, this sweets thing that plagued me for years is just ‘gone’, and there’s nothing magical about it…no supplements, other than magnesium. Just removing MSG and other chemicals did the trick for me�and eating on the MasterMeal plan, of course.

So, no “cheat meals”, “off meals”, “junk days”…see how that language just sounds like you’re sabotaging your success? You’re not, if you do it right:

  1. Eat half your Alternative Meal, and take the other half home. Eat it later that day, or not at all. Do NOT eat it the next day!
  2. Eat some protein prior to going out…that always helps.
  3. Remove the concept of ‘cheating’ and just enjoy yourself in moderation.
  4. It’s okay to curb the calories a bit like I did today in order to eat a bit more on your alternative meals…just don’t do this more than once a week or so if you want to keep that fat burning kicking.

Onward!

Wednesday, October 26th

My MasterMeal Plan
MM1: Mushroom Chicken and Rice with 2 tbsp of home-made salsa…the meal is so good I’m wanting it every day. By the way, I’ve been asked to add times to my meals. I’ll do that in the future; basically I have my first meal about 1:00pm, as I get up around noon or later and go to bed around 4:00am, and I eat every 2-4 hours
MM2: Small amount of protein (beef)
MM3: Alternative Meal: Crawfish Bisque, 1/2 salmon filet with dirty rice, garlic bread, three bites of Italian Cream Cheese Cake, decaf coffee
MM4: Remaining salmon and rice
(Most of my recipes can be found here).

The gym is beckoning, and my fingers are tired. Tomorrow will be a very simple workout (never start training all-out, otherwise you’ll land on the couch) consisting of body-weight dips and back work for about 3-4 sets each and some cardio.

Trust me…in a month or so, I’ll be doing workouts most pros won’t bother with, but this boy ain’t no foo. That’s enough slang for one day…”ACK!” to you all, as Bill would say. {10}

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Comments (13)

Bella said:

That is so true Jon - why say youre cheating when your just eating! As soon as I stopped that mind set - my cravings stopped. I have also cut all ‘diet’ labeled ‘foods’ from my meals - and yes, I feel 100 times better - my body feels in control without all that chemical crap making decisions for me - (cravings/stomach cramps etc)- and food also tastes better which makes it easier for me to make the right choices!

Posted on Oct 27, 2005 02:45 AM

janina hill said:

Magnesium you say , unfortunately there are about 10 family ,sorry I exaggerate 7 birthdays (we just had 2) between now and christmas. I am fine as long as there is nothing sweet in the house but come those birthdays ….. just one bite and I am done for…. I try to avoid it .
Do you think the magnesium will be enough? I really need to kick the sugary and fat thing funny thing is rarely do I enjoy it!

Posted on Oct 27, 2005 02:50 AM

Jon Benson said:

Magnesium is not enough…you need the crazy chemicals out. MSG is the biggie: natural flavors is its favorite hiding place. I used to be “one bite and forget it”, too…you can do it. Just remember this: 1 year from now, those birthdays and holidays will be distant memories, but you will still be YOU, in your body, and that’s based on your decisions ‘today’ and ‘tomorrow’, not on someone else’s idea of a social agenda. Seriously…get ruthless, as we say in M-Power, and set your own schedule. Enjoy those times under your ‘own’ rules. If people don’t understand, ——- em.

Did I say that outloud? No, no I didn’t…I just type a bunch of dashes! : )

As I say, they don’t pay your medical bills or have to wear your clothes, now do they?

Posted on Oct 27, 2005 03:01 AM

janina hill said:

Can’t help but think that the people who put msg under “natural flavours” have a Dr. Evil laugh whilst they are labelling, I do avoid msg and sweeteners but you are right in that one has to be a vigilant label reader. Thanks for the help.

Posted on Oct 27, 2005 05:53 AM

Bella said:

Many people also dont like others making ‘positive’ nutrition choices - secretly they want you to be like them(eat whatever/put exercise on the back burner etc)to help justify their poor lifestyle choices. Its just plain evil! I have lost some ‘friends’ along the way in my quest for a better life…’discarded’ them along with some body fat! haha

Posted on Oct 27, 2005 05:54 AM

Geoff said:

Once again Jon you’ve shown that a simple thing can make a helluva difference, particularly to one’s mental approach. Whilst it’s quite easy to take the expression “cheat day” out of your vocabulary I suspect it will be damn effective - especially for me with the w/e coming up. If I’m going to trip up with my meals it’s invariably at the w/e with a lot of socialising, etc. I’m going to give your “eat half the meal” suggestion a try - NO, sorry - I WILL eat half the meal!!

Cheers, Geoff (the limey)

Posted on Oct 27, 2005 09:16 AM

anna said:

jon
thank you for your advice yesterday. I tried it and surprisingly it worked but your “voice” was in my head.
family wanted to eat in the mall, but they all wanted pasta with alfredo sauce
I didn’t even touch it!! great. Later at home I had a nice whole wheat sandwich with lean meat and veggies.
It was a great day. I have a feeling that this blogging is going to keep me on track. Thanks a bunch.
Also yesterday I had my kids watch the “supersize me” documentary and i think it had a positive effect on my 8th year old.
today is my cardio day - i am going for a run. Although here in canada it is cold right now -but not too bad yet.
few weeks ago i adopted this idea of eating from a smaller plate at suppers as well. all this combine — it is just great!!

Posted on Oct 27, 2005 10:13 AM

Jon Benson said:

To Janina:
You’re quite welcome. It IS downright evil, only unlike the good Dr., it’s not the least bit funny. Don’t get me started about the FDA, Rummy and the gang…CODEX is next. : )

To Bella:
You lost no one that matters. “Friend” is a word we use just about as losely as “love”. For example, I lost my former “best” friend (truly) over a breach of loyality. The tough thing to deal with was the fact that I clearly ‘spelled out’ how this was a complete and utter breach prior, and asked that the position not be taken for the sake of our friendship. However, she was swayed by another person…just like what we’re talking about here…and that was that. Had an apology been rendered, it would have made all the difference, but pride is a killer. There are things you simply cannot go back to once that degree of trust and loyalty is broken if you want to remain healthy and growing. Perhaps over a great deal of time, don’t know. I just know that I see so many people who are ‘miserable’ because they refuse to manage their relationships. I’m not talking about (gee, what a rant of a reply!! sorry… : ) cutting off people in a ‘bitchy’ way if they “do you wrong”. That’s arrogance more than protection. I’m talking about clear communication with the people in your life. “This is acceptable, this is not.” “Where can I meet YOUR needs better than I am without compromising who I am at my core?” That second statement is “loaded”. Some feel that, say, refusing to watch TV a few nights a week to spend time with the kids or the wife is “a core breach”. Who are they kidding? On the other hand, “Woman, you shut up and go make me some PIE!”, as Cartman would say, would be an utter breach for 99% of the women in this country. Can’t say about others… : ) And bravo for it. Hmmm…still, cooking your boy a romantic meal out of the blue…yeah. : ) Rant over.

Posted on Oct 27, 2005 11:08 AM

Jon Benson said:

To Geoff:
Thanks mate…coaching, for me, is an “art of distinctions.” It’s kinda my passion. The “L” of “NLP” really. M-Power is 48 weeks worth of over a thousand distinctions. It was a blast reporting or coming up with them. Most I come up with, but others from ‘great’ distinguising coaches like Robbins, Proctor, Hill, and others, are too good not to mention. In fact, I tip my hat to Tony for (a) being a wonderful first (and continuing) mentor in his own right; and (b) honing the art of distinction. These things make ‘massive’ differences, especially long-term. I took a life inventory on my birthday, and I could not believe the positive changes in one year…and I’ve been doing this stuff since college! The only difference was a total focus on the principles of linguistic distinctions and a few other M-Power goodies. Made all the difference.

To Anna:
Thrilled to hear it! Keep those reports coming…10 in 10 girl.

Posted on Oct 27, 2005 11:25 AM

janine hill said:

Wow I must have been tired I spelt my own name wrong or could have been the …..1.2lb of fat I lost ! Yay!

Posted on Oct 27, 2005 05:19 PM

Elisa said:

I TOTALLY AGREE!!! Like you Jon I am a firm believer in NLP and that what we tell ourselves we act on and become. I never “cheat”. There is no reason to do so. Eating (“dieting”) included, I can’t think of a single place in society where this word has any other connotation than negative.

I say I eat healthfully 100% of the time with a few rare choices in the overall variety. I just vary the way I eat to mix things up - hence there is never any cheating. Like you I’m just eating.

I truly believe that if you tell yourself you are having a “cheat” day eventually you must bring that into balance. Your mind then sort of concocts other “stories” around the word “cheat” and off you go. If I am cheating, am I getting away with something? Am I “good” when I am not cheating? At any rate, I love your mantra - I’m just eating! I have a choice and I am making it and so I’m just having a meal.

When the variance gets a bit out of whack for me (for instance if I travel and don’t have a food plan) then I have to go to my Core for support - which would I rather have, a fatty breakfast or freedom from excess bodyfat? Thinking it through helps me make a better choice.

Also, since I’ve switched to organic foods, I never crave sugar anymore. Magnesium really helped in the early days of transitioning from foods that weren’t really working for me and totally stemmed my carb cravings. So I can’t thank you enough for that tip. Simple, easy to implement, relatively cheap and very effective!

By the way, I’ve lost a 1/2 pound of fat this week and can see some definite shoulder definition!

Thanks for this blog. It helps put right the most important part of all of this - the mental game.

Posted on Nov 02, 2005 01:20 PM

Jon Benson said:

Elisa;

You’re just on fire there, aren’t you? How GREAT to hear! Keep it up…and yeah, organic just rules. Honestly, I never would have thought so unless I experienced it myself.

(No, I don’t sell veggies.)

Look for my second blog (as promised) tonight on going organic.

Posted on Nov 02, 2005 11:30 PM

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